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Tuesday, January 31, 2012

Couldn't agree more!

3 Women to Keep Away from Your Boyfriend


No matter how much you love and trust your boyfriend (or husband), men are weak and need assistance in preventing themselves from getting into trouble. I'm not one to advocate caging your man to prevent him from cheating.



However, I'm also not one to advocate being a damn fool playing with fire and inviting trouble into your relationship. Here are 3 types of women who will just spell trouble for any relationship, so avoid them if you can.


The Ex-Girlfriend / Ex-Wife
He may say that he no longer has feelings for his ex, and it may well be true but she is the one who had a special bond with him. The ex can ruin your relationship if she's always in the picture. Does she call him when she loses her job, breaks up with her new boyfriend or has a problem? Is he the one man in her mind who truly 'get's her'?
You don't have to make her the enemy but you need to draw the line somewhere. They are no longer a couple, and she should not depend on him or expect to maintain such an emotionally intimate relationship with him. Give this witch the boot, it's a huge world out there, she can find someone else to lean on.


The Low Self-Esteem Woman
We all know women like this. A woman with low self-esteem will do almost anything for male attention. She will flirt with your boyfriend, bad mouth you behind your back, display sluttish behaviour and fish for compliments from your man.
She needs it to feel good about herself. Never leave such a woman alone with your boyfriend. It's not that you don't trust your man, but be warned that such women will bend over backwards for the attention of anyone with a penis.


The Model Chick
Ok, I know that it's not fair to say this because it's not like being gorgeous makes her a bad person. She may be your friend and have no ill intentions towards your relationship at all. But do you like the thought of your man fantasizing about this model chick?
And which man honestly doesn't want to say to his friends, "I nailed a model!" ? So don't suggest that your boyfriend give her a lift in his car on his way home from work, or that he go over to her apartment without you to fix a leak in her taps. Just to prevent temptation and err on the side of caution, don't allow them to get unnecessarily close.


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Cheating when Drunk, Forgive & Forget it?


Being drunk is just an excuse people (women included) use countless of times to explain why they cheated on their partners. Cheating is cheating, and I don't think alcohol is to be blamed for it. Cheaters should be responsible for their mistakes and not play the victim.





If alcohol makes people so unaware of what they are doing, then when 2 men are drinking together and get drunk, how come they don't end up having sex with each other? Quite simply because they are aware of what they are doing!

There's a Spanish saying - No hay borracho que coma fuego which roughly translates as - There is no drunk that will eat fire. A drunk knows that something he is about to do is wrong, but he wants to do it (usually for pleasure) and he just doesn't give a damn.

Drinking merely curtails ones inhibitions. I don't believe that alcohol is ever going to make someone do something that he doesn't want to do on some level when sober but was just afraid to do it.

The only exception where I would forgive a person for cheating is if he or she was drugged (date drug, roofie, etc) and then raped while passed out. I would see them as an unwilling victim in such a situation, but otherwise, there is no excuse for cheating!

If you are unfortunate enough to be faced with the situation of a drunken partner cheating on you and then asking for a second chance, you need to ask yourself if you can handle being the kind of girl who will worry that her boyfriend is cheating on her every time he goes out for drinks.

If you don't mind being paranoid, then feel free to go back to him. But the truth remains that he did cheat on you, alcohol was just an excuse.

Furthermore, if a man is really so incredibly drunk that he truly has no idea what he is doing, then he will probably lose his legs and kiss the ground and he will pass out. He wouldn't get an erection, pull his pants down and have intercourse with a woman.

Thursday, January 26, 2012

Fish Manhattan 1 for 1.

7th January 2012, Saturday.


Out with the boy to meet up with his brothers. Kenny, Nicholas & Kelvin.

We went for the Manhanttan Fish Market 1-for-1! 
Any one of you went for it too? 








After eating, we were walking around & the guys wanted to play LAN, so we went to a LAN shop at Parklane. After playing for like 2hours, we left & walked to The Cathay. Random idea of having Ben&Jerry!
MONSTER!

It's $88!

The guys conquering it!







So big right! HAHAHA.




After icecream, we went for some drinks~





Nicholas sent Bf &I home after that! (:

Sunday, January 22, 2012

Pre-CNY preparations!

Hi! For this CNY, I went for a haircut, hairwash & blow, bought dresses from Gmarkets & Gelish manicure with colleagues! Hehe.

Alone at salon, the one I went to dye my hair for my 21st birthday last year.

Before cutting,

After cutting, washing & blowing!
Not much different but I cut like 2-inch for the back! T.T



And finally my loots from Gmarket are finally here after waiting for so long! Hehe.

My top favourite! For CNY day 1 definitely! HAHA.

2nd fav!

3rd fav!






These 7 items cost less than $60! :D


New bedsheets for us for this CNY! HEHEHE. Loving red.

My new umbrella from the Bf! Love it!!



This is my CNY nails design, how about yours? (:

I did this at Jnails with my colleagues, Angelina & Felicia.


It costed me $80!

Matchy matchy with my cover!



Please tell me it's nice! HAHA.
This is my second Gelish so far. (:



Oh & my mum bought me a new sleepwear!
Hello kitty!
Bf says this hello kitty is asian (cause of it's skin colour) Lololol.

Thursday, January 19, 2012

Samuel's birthday.

6th January 2012, Friday.

Happy birthday!


Our presents for him, 2 polos from Ben Sherman!


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Read this just now.

"You know as they say, if life gives you lemons, make lemonade? Well, I've had so many bad boyfriends in the past that I have a whole pitcher full of lemonade now. And you know what? I'm going to share that lemonade with you so you don't have to go around wasting your life collecting lemons like I did."


What's your Definition of a Good Boyfriend?



Here's my definition of a good boyfriend. Look out for these traits, if it's missing... I'm warning you (gently) that you're likely to end up with a lemon.

A good boyfriend:


- is not a flirt
When you're at a party, look at how he socialises. Separate from him, and then watch him while he's solo. If he is just having civil conversation, fantastic. If you see him touching and complimenting another woman and his eyes roving all over the place, that's not good.

If you really like him, then at some point after the party talk to him about how that made you feel. Chances are he probably didn't know that his behaviour made you feel bad or was disrespectful. However, if he continues to flirt with other women, then he’s being very clear not only about who he is, but also about how little he respects you.


- makes time for you
If your boyfriend is spending a lot of time with you (and it's not just for sex), it's a very positive sign. Some guys may not be very comfortable expressing feelings of love but they may spend every available opportunity with you because they love you.

Even if he cannot meet you, a man who is involved with his relationship will always find an excuse to call you, be it to share a thought, or ask your opinion or because he misses you.


- is not a bad loser and is a gracious winner
How a guy loses can tell you who he is... especially if you're the one that beat him! How a man responds to defeat tells you how mature he is. Apart from not being a sore loser, the mark of a good man (and hence a good boyfriend and partner for you) is that he is humble about winning. This means not gloating and rubbing it in your face when he does get ahead at something or when he is right in an argument.


- tells you that he loves you
...and means it. Many men use fake declarations of love in order to manipulate women. They just say what you want to hear. And on the other extreme are the men who are commitment phobes who find it nearly impossible to tell you that he loves you... even after months and months of courtship.

A good boyfriend won't be ashamed of his love for you. He will not hide it from his family or friends. And most of all, he will not hide it from you.


- is not volatile
Couples, even the best ones, will fight. When you have your first fight, pay attention to it. You can tell just about everything you need to know about a person by the way they fight. You simply do not know someone until you’ve had a fight with them. How violent? Rational? Crazy are they? How fast and easily does he erupt and how long does the anger last. Does he hold grudges?

When you disagree, and your boyfriend starts attacking you verbally or physically, then he's not a man, he's a beast. If he is rational, sticks to the point and actually listens and gives you a chance to explain, then you have a good boyfriend. Keep him, and treat him well.


- lets you be yourself
A good boyfriend does not try to control or change you but is attracted to you for who you are. If he is overly possessive, critical, irrationally jealous or dictates what you can or cannot do, then he is a bad boyfriend. A good boyfriend plays more of a supportive role and seeing you happy makes him happy. 

Actually, when you look at it simply, a good boyfriend should have all the qualities you want in a best friend ...... oh and, of course there needs to be sexual compatibility too! :)