Hi, it's been long since I last shared anything personal, as in emotionally. Been wanting to post something about this topic all these while, just didnt have the time and couldnt bring myself to do it as I might offend quite a number of people out there. So is there any kind of people out there who you dislike? Character wise, behavior wise, personality wise and even just thinking wise. For me, there's quite a number. I know I'm not perfect either. But this is my blog right? No harm writing what I feel. Mayb I shall go according to gender?
Girls' character, behavior, personality and thinking that I dislike (not in any kind of sequence):
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Girls who smoke - Ok, I'm a non-smoker therefore personally I dont like anyone smoking especially girls. No matter how good looking I think you are, as long as I know you smoke, I dont think you're anywhere near pretty.
2.
Girls who are too friendly - I'm attached as you all should know. So I really dislike girls who are too friendly, especially towards any of their guy friends even though the girl herself is attached. I mean if you dont respect yourself but then mayb at the very least respect your Bf? And worse if the guy you're too friendly to is attached, what makes you? Seriously. It's ok for a guy and girl to be friends ofcourse, but not way too friendly. Eg, As friends, the girl dont have to morning call to wake the guy up every morning. Unless both of you are single, fine, go ahead.
3.
Girls who dont have enough self-love/ self-respect - Do I need to say more?
4.
Girls who love to send their own self-shots to guy friends privately/in group chats - If the person asked for it, FINE. That guy likes you, he wants to see your face. If you changed your face/hairstyle drastically, FINE. If not why do you have to send your self-shots to your guy friends when they didnt ask for it and WORSE IF they are attached. Have some respect for the couple please? You're a girl right, would you like it if another girl send her own self-shots to your bf every other day? If you say no, give me your Bf's number, let's try shall we? Hahaha.
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Girls who text/call an attached guy too much/too often or at unearthly hours - Firstly, the guy is attached, again where's your respect? And at unearthly hours, really? You dont need to sleep, you got nothing to do, but people might be sleeping already because they have got work the next day!
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Girls who "act single" or "behave single" - So ashamed to be in a relationship or you are not proud to have your Bf/husband at all? If not proud, then why are you still with them? Enjoy being surrounded and chased by guys, how about you stay single? (:
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Girls (attached) who loves to take individual photos with ANY guys - Yes I love to take photos but I dont take any individual photos with any guys especially if the guy is attached. Most of the time, I only take individual pics with guys who's my bf, my relatives, my cousins or mayb guy friend's important day (Birthdays/Weddings). Other than that, you dont see me taking photos with guys just because I want to. Because I respect my bf and also the gfs of my friends (even though I might not know the gf at all). And again, if both of you are single, go ahead.
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Girls who club/pub all the time - I dont think it's very nice to see a girl wearing too little and always getting drunk. Especially if you're not a very good drinker yet always want to go clubbing etc, dont wait till bad things happen then you regret.
Guys' character, behavior, personality and thinking that I dislike (not in any kind of sequence):
1.
Guys who smoke ALOT - Like I said, I'm a non-smoker. Most guys likes to think that guys smoking is very common, I dont like it still but I cannot stand it most when they smoke ALOT like if "I dont finish smoking this whole pack today, I'll die" kind of thing.
2.
Guys who are too 大男人 Male chauvinism - Hello? We are not in 1960s anymore. You can, I cannot? Women and men are equal already and there are some women out there are earning more than the men now. So BOO!
3.
Guys who disrespect their gf/wife - Mayb because I'm a female, so this might be kinda bias. Scolding/shouting at your Gf/wife for even at the slightest thing? Texting/chatting with other girls, and when they gf/wife finds out, scold them for not trusting you and blaming her for always making a big fuss over small things? Really? When all she does was being faithful to you?
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Guys who DONT WANT to bring their gf/wife when they go out with their friends - Oh really? So ashamed of your own gf/wife? Then why did you even have them in the first place? You all can always hang out together, no? I cannot stand guys who goes like "Hey I'm going out/overseas with my friends today/this weekend" And so? How about your Gf or your wife? Even worse if you have a family already.
5.
Guys who always put their friends first - Gf/wife say "Hey let's go town for dinner tonight" Guy replied "Dont want la, tired" Mayb next day Friend say "Hey let's go town for dinner tonight" Guy replied "Ok" WHAT!? Why Friends ask can, Gf/wife ask sure got excuses? Even worse if it happens on the same freaking day. Why be such an ass? And then you go out so late leaving your gf/wife waiting for you at home.
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Guys who "hide" things from their gf/wife - Change phones' passcode because she should trust you and not by "checking" your phone. Females are more of a visual person and many of us have trust issues because of all the failed relationship/stories that we been through or heard. We prefer to see "proof" of you being faithful with our own eyes than to trust blindly. And it's always better to tell her first before she finds anything out herself later.
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Guys (attached) who always like other girls' photos ESP girls' selfshots - It's quite disgusting really. Why like that? I feel sad for the gf/wife leis. Also never see you like your own gf/wife photos most of the time.
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Guys who go gaga over girls who took photoshoots - I dont know why nowadays people tend to think that photoshoots = models. Any one can take photoshoots, solo/group or whatever. But that doesnt make them a model?! Why so shallow? They are probably just girls working in the events industry.
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Guys who game all day all night - I'm sure there's better for you to do out there, yes? Like getting a proper decent job.
So what you all think? Do comment!
Actually, all comes down to respect and knowing your limits. Think before you do/make any decision. Who was the one by your side all these while and who is just there once in awhile ALTHOUGH you guys might have great times together? Some of the points might be vice versa too haha. & I'm really glad I've got super understanding girlfriends who doesnt make me choose between Bf or them! :D
I might add on to this list anytime I think of any! :D
Thankyou for reading!
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Just sharing~
Read this
status sometime back on Fb, written by a guy, Darren Chia. I totally agree with it. So just sharing with you all!
For everyone, both single and attached; this is long but you might benefit from this.
For those attached, please keep a safe distance between you and the opposite sex. Only friends should be strictly only friends. What do I mean? I'd go on to that.
As humans, we are naturally sensitive to our emotions otherwise commonly known as feelings. By allowing the opposite sex to be near you or to woo you even if are attached, you are giving yourself a chance to develop feelings for another someone.
Don't say you won't because when it finally happens, you'll be saying, "I lost my feelings for him/her", "I cannot control love", "He/she didn't love me as much as before". (All these, I conclude are excuses and would never have happened if you didn't give yourself the chance to allow it to happen, if you understand what I mean). Don't all these excuses sound familiar? Those guilty of it, do reflect.
Some people believe man and woman can be best friends. Feelings develop between the sexes, that's nature my friend. How do I prove this? How does a blind person fall in love without having seen their partners before? Emotions/feelings that is, the purest form of love not having been affected by factors such as appearance. Would a male fall in love with a male? Unless he's a gay of course. What is the case in point here? Anyone can fall in love with anyone, given enough time to communicate and interact. Don't test/overestimate yourselves. We are afterall humans and you're right when you say you can't control love, so don't give yourself that chance to sway from the current love. Best friends can only happen between a similar sex.
Now we'd talk about normal friends. When I say only friends should remain as only friends, I meant this; normal friends between the opposite sex only allows for minimal contact or contact only when necessary. Meaning? It can be something as simple as, "What time does school end tomorrow?", or "Is there project after school tomorrow?", or maybe even "Do u have a job to introduce?"
Definitely not something like that, "Hey, good morning! ^-^", or "Have you eaten lunch?" This kind of messages are strictly not supposed to happen between normal friends. If you're single, anyone can send you these. When you're attached, know where you stand. As I always say, you can't have the best of both worlds.
For those who know someone is attached, don't be a bitch or a bastard trying to woo your target. You can wait but don't ever try to woo while your target is in the midst of a relationship.
This would better help girls understand how guys mind work? Some girls till today don't understand why guys always ask about the other guy even after being told, "He's a normal friend". We ask because that guy is not acting like a normal friend. And worse still, you're replying to their texts which allows them to think they have the chance. Know when a guy is a normal friend and when a guy isn't. Same thing for guys, if you're lucky to be popular, don't go reply girls here and there. It's isn't cool.
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