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Wednesday, January 1, 2014

Goodbye 2013, Hello 2014!

HAPPY 2014 EVERYONE! 



Year 2013 had been really great, at least for me. (If you know me or read my blog, you should know why) Looking forward to a better 2014! ♡

Thankyou each and everyone of you for being part of my life esp the bf! Wishing everyone a great 2014 in advance! ♡


我们勾勾手, 要比谁都快乐 ♡ 
Another new year with you. 2013 had been a really great year for us. 
Cheers to the new year 2014, our 5th together and hopefully a better one for us. 

Love you my 1314 ♡

Wednesday, May 22, 2013

People I dislike.


Hi, it's been long since I last shared anything personal, as in emotionally. Been wanting to post something about this topic all these while, just didnt have the time and couldnt bring myself to do it as I might offend quite a number of people out there. So is there any kind of people out there who you dislike? Character wise, behavior wise, personality wise and even just thinking wise. For me, there's quite a number. I know I'm not perfect either. But this is my blog right? No harm writing what I feel. Mayb I shall go according to gender?



Girls' character, behavior, personality and thinking that I dislike (not in any kind of sequence):


1. Girls who smoke - Ok, I'm a non-smoker therefore personally I dont like anyone smoking especially girls. No matter how good looking I think you are, as long as I know you smoke, I dont think you're anywhere near pretty.

2. Girls who are too friendly - I'm attached as you all should know. So I really dislike girls who are too friendly, especially towards any of their guy friends even though the girl herself is attached. I mean if you dont respect yourself but then mayb at the very least respect your Bf? And worse if the guy you're too friendly to is attached, what makes you? Seriously. It's ok for a guy and girl to be friends ofcourse, but not way too friendly. Eg, As friends, the girl dont have to morning call to wake the guy up every morning. Unless both of you are single, fine, go ahead.


3. Girls who dont have enough self-love/ self-respect - Do I need to say more?

4. Girls who love to send their own self-shots to guy friends privately/in group chats - If the person asked for it, FINE. That guy likes you, he wants to see your face. If you changed your face/hairstyle drastically, FINE. If not why do you have to send your self-shots to your guy friends when they didnt ask for it and WORSE IF they are attached. Have some respect for the couple please? You're a girl right, would you like it if another girl send her own self-shots to your bf every other day? If you say no, give me your Bf's number, let's try shall we? Hahaha.

5. Girls who text/call an attached guy too much/too often or at unearthly hours - Firstly, the guy is attached, again where's your respect? And at unearthly hours, really? You dont need to sleep, you got nothing to do, but people might be sleeping already because they have got work the next day!

6. Girls who "act single" or "behave single" - So ashamed to be in a relationship or you are not proud to have your Bf/husband at all? If not proud, then why are you still with them? Enjoy being surrounded and chased by guys, how about you stay single? (:

7. Girls (attached) who loves to take individual photos with ANY guys - Yes I love to take photos but I dont take any individual photos with any guys especially if the guy is attached. Most of the time, I only take individual pics with guys who's my bf, my relatives, my cousins or mayb guy friend's important day (Birthdays/Weddings). Other than that, you dont see me taking photos with guys just because I want to. Because I respect my bf and also the gfs of my friends (even though I might not know the gf at all). And again, if both of you are single, go ahead.

8. Girls who club/pub all the time - I dont think it's very nice to see a girl wearing too little and always getting drunk. Especially if you're not a very good drinker yet always want to go clubbing etc, dont wait till bad things happen then you regret.





Guys' character, behavior, personality and thinking that I dislike (not in any kind of sequence):



1. Guys who smoke ALOT - Like I said, I'm a non-smoker. Most guys likes to think that guys smoking is very common, I dont like it still but I cannot stand it most when they smoke ALOT like if "I dont finish smoking this whole pack today, I'll die" kind of thing.


2. Guys who are too 大男人 Male chauvinism - Hello? We are not in 1960s anymore. You can, I cannot? Women and men are equal already and there are some women out there are earning more than the men now. So BOO!


3. Guys who disrespect their gf/wife - Mayb because I'm a female, so this might be kinda bias. Scolding/shouting at your Gf/wife for even at the slightest thing? Texting/chatting with other girls, and when they gf/wife finds out, scold them for not trusting you and blaming her for always making a big fuss over small things? Really? When all she does was being faithful to you?

4. Guys who DONT WANT to bring their gf/wife when they go out with their friends - Oh really? So ashamed of your own gf/wife? Then why did you even have them in the first place? You all can always hang out together, no? I cannot stand guys who goes like "Hey I'm going out/overseas with my friends today/this weekend" And so? How about your Gf or your wife? Even worse if you have a family already.


5. Guys who always put their friends first - Gf/wife say "Hey let's go town for dinner tonight" Guy replied "Dont want la, tired" Mayb next day Friend say "Hey let's go town for dinner tonight" Guy replied "Ok" WHAT!? Why Friends ask can, Gf/wife ask sure got excuses? Even worse if it happens on the same freaking day. Why be such an ass? And then you go out so late leaving your gf/wife waiting for you at home.



6. Guys who "hide" things from their gf/wife - Change phones' passcode because she should trust you and not by "checking" your phone. Females are more of a visual person and many of us have trust issues because of all the failed relationship/stories that we been through or heard. We prefer to see "proof" of you being faithful with our own eyes than to trust blindly. And it's always better to tell her first before she finds anything out herself later.



7. Guys (attached) who always like other girls' photos ESP girls' selfshots - It's quite disgusting really. Why like that? I feel sad for the gf/wife leis. Also never see you like your own gf/wife photos most of the time.

8. Guys who go gaga over girls who took photoshoots - I dont know why nowadays people tend to think that photoshoots = models. Any one can take photoshoots, solo/group or whatever. But that doesnt make them a model?! Why so shallow? They are probably just girls working in the events industry.

9. Guys who game all day all night - I'm sure there's better for you to do out there, yes? Like getting a proper decent job.









So what you all think? Do comment!

Actually, all comes down to respect and knowing your limits. Think before you do/make any decision. Who was the one by your side all these while and who is just there once in awhile ALTHOUGH you guys might have great times together? Some of the points might be vice versa too haha. & I'm really glad I've got super understanding girlfriends who doesnt make me choose between Bf or them! :D




I might add on to this list anytime I think of any! :D
Thankyou for reading!


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Just sharing~

Read this status sometime back on Fb, written by a guy, Darren Chia. I totally agree with it. So just sharing with you all!

For everyone, both single and attached; this is long but you might benefit from this.
For those attached, please keep a safe distance between you and the opposite sex. Only friends should be strictly only friends. What do I mean? I'd go on to that.

As humans, we are naturally sensitive to our emotions otherwise commonly known as feelings. By allowing the opposite sex to be near you or to woo you even if are attached, you are giving yourself a chance to develop feelings for another someone.

Don't say you won't because when it finally happens, you'll be saying, "I lost my feelings for him/her", "I cannot control love", "He/she didn't love me as much as before". (All these, I conclude are excuses and would never have happened if you didn't give yourself the chance to allow it to happen, if you understand what I mean). Don't all these excuses sound familiar? Those guilty of it, do reflect.

Some people believe man and woman can be best friends. Feelings develop between the sexes, that's nature my friend. How do I prove this? How does a blind person fall in love without having seen their partners before? Emotions/feelings that is, the purest form of love not having been affected by factors such as appearance. Would a male fall in love with a male? Unless he's a gay of course. What is the case in point here? Anyone can fall in love with anyone, given enough time to communicate and interact. Don't test/overestimate yourselves. We are afterall humans and you're right when you say you can't control love, so don't give yourself that chance to sway from the current love. Best friends can only happen between a similar sex.

Now we'd talk about normal friends. When I say only friends should remain as only friends, I meant this; normal friends between the opposite sex only allows for minimal contact or contact only when necessary. Meaning? It can be something as simple as, "What time does school end tomorrow?", or "Is there project after school tomorrow?", or maybe even "Do u have a job to introduce?"

Definitely not something like that, "Hey, good morning! ^-^", or "Have you eaten lunch?" This kind of messages are strictly not supposed to happen between normal friends. If you're single, anyone can send you these. When you're attached, know where you stand. As I always say, you can't have the best of both worlds.

For those who know someone is attached, don't be a bitch or a bastard trying to woo your target. You can wait but don't ever try to woo while your target is in the midst of a relationship.

This would better help girls understand how guys mind work? Some girls till today don't understand why guys always ask about the other guy even after being told, "He's a normal friend". We ask because that guy is not acting like a normal friend. And worse still, you're replying to their texts which allows them to think they have the chance. Know when a guy is a normal friend and when a guy isn't. Same thing for guys, if you're lucky to be popular, don't go reply girls here and there. It's isn't cool.




 Images credits: Google. 

Wednesday, April 24, 2013

Veteran MediaCorp actor Huang Wenyong 黃文永

File:Huang wenyong.jpg

Chinese name 黃文永 
Pinyin Huáng Wényǒng (Mandarin) 
Ancestry Chaozhou, China[1]

Born 25 July 1953 Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia 
Died 20 April 2013 (aged 60) Singapore General Hospital, Singapore 

Occupation Actor, Teacher 
Years active 1981–2013 
Children 2


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Thank you for all you've done to entertained us on TV, many of us watched you on screen since we were kids. You'll be dearly missed but we're sure you're in a better place right now. 

RIP Huang Wen Yong


Sunday, December 23, 2012

When a guy cheat with you, he will cheat on you.




Bet everyone have read or heard about the Zoe Raymond Saga.
If you have not, you can visit Alvin & Yuki FB page.
Part 1 & Part 2

Personally I dont know her and want to make no comments directly at her.
Just in general, I've always believed that

"When a guy cheat with you, he will cheat on you"


I mean it's like if a guy is willing to cheat on his gf just to be with you, what makes you think that he wouldnt cheat on you and be with another girl he wants to be with? Therefore personally, I hate third parties and I swear I will never be one unless I wasnt aware that the guy is attached.

And mayb because I'm currently in a 3years plus on-going relationship, I take 3rd parties issues rather personally. Like putting myself in the shoes of the gf that was cheated on and all. I'm very certain that if I was the girl being cheated on, I would have gone bonkers and I might go to the extent of wanting to kill the 3rd party.

Ofcourse I wouldnt say that it's entirely the 3rd party's fault. The guy involved is the one in total fault. If you dont love your gf anymore or more than the girl out there then break it off with her before you get involved with the other girl and ending up being a cheater and all 3 of you gets hurt.

It's like

"Love is not a game, so why cheat?"

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Although thank god, I've never cheated on before (or not that I know of), but my girlfriends/friends/online bloggers have shared their stories and I know I never want to feel like any of them hurting in that way. Breaking up hurts, but being cheated on hurts 10x more.


Ofcourse, your partner might not be the best-looking, smartest, most capable person in the world.
But he/she loves you.
Time might be hard at times, but remember how far you have been through together.


So if you're in a relationship right now, I hope you cherish and treasure each other more.
Cause you might never find another who loves you like they do.

And if you're not, I believed the right one will appear, just in a matter of time.
Just please, dont destroy other's relationship/marriage just because you cant have yours or you think the couple are not suitable for each other just because they quarrelled too much too often and you would be the better option for them. Same goes to the girls if you've been unfaithful.

If you cant stay faithful, then stay single.
Those guys/girls who have been cheated on before, chin up!
You're better than those cheaters.

Karma is a bitch, what comes around, goes around.


xoxo.


Wednesday, July 20, 2011

Young all over again.

: A strong relationship starts with two brave people who are ready to sacrifice anything for one another..” 


I'M SO CUTE RIGHT! HAHAHA.


Eversince I started working, I miss being young all over again. Dont have to wake up so early everyday, dont have to learn to make new friends, dont have to rush works and reports, dont have to be stressed up being a new staff, all and all. Being young, all you do is wake up, whoever is at home will takecare of you in everything. I arent that fortunate though but at least I dont have to be in a whole new environment. Something really struck me recently, interpersonal relationships. I admit I'm total mood-swing person, I can talk to nicely this moment, and the next moment I see something I'm unhappy about, I would just reply you in a very bad manner or mayb dont reply at all. I dont remember when's the last time I really had problem making new friends and communicating with people. But I seems to be having it now. To be honest, I like my job, the job scopes and all are really fine to me. But just feel that colleagues really cant be like friends? Or is it just me? Not directing this at anyone in my office. Just a general point of view. Anyone out there has this problem too? At times like these, I miss my girlfriends more (that's why I'm using my phone most of the time), yes that's not an excuse I know.


Anyway, did I mention I'm no longer on probation? HEHE, so happy!


原来爱情那么傷...

Sunday, July 17, 2011

My top two.

: Love is when you turn into stalker of his profile and get worried to everygirl who talk to him”


I love how my weekends are even if it means waking up to doing housechores at Bf's. Nothing beats more than waking up seeing him beside me and knowing that I will be with him the whole of the day even if it means just staying home. Mayb I'm weird? But I'm no longer like those girls who only wants to get out and just hang out or have fun. I know I need to make use of those times cause weekdays, the timing of both of us clashed so bad that although it's already been 2 weeks plus, I still cant accept it. I still feel so damn upset talking about it. Yes, I'm a Bf's girl. Because with him, I felt the most comfortable (apart from a couple of girlfriends), I felt the safest with him. I know I'm too dependent on him sometimes that I know it's hard to live without him. But mayb I have been independent from young as I dont stay with my parents till I'm in my secondary days when I'm already old enough to takecare of myself. Apart from Bf, there's another person whom I used rely on alot, my Godmum, she left me for more than a year already. I admit I miss her so much sometimes but I just kept it in me.


Seriously, I dont know why am I typing all these.
Mayb I just need to let it out somewhere.



I have a love-hate relationship with this song. :/

Friday, June 24, 2011

6 Steps To Great Couple Communication.

The best ways to resolve conflicts when you fight. Plus other "couple talk" tips.


You're bound to disagree with your significant other from time to time, whether it's about chores, finances or just what movie to see. Fortunately, you can be angry with your honey without worrying that you're on the road to splitsville.

The key is to communicate in a way that deepens your love and connection, says Patricia Gibberman, a licensed clinical social worker in Fairfax, Va. How you speak to your partner -- especially during arguments -- says a lot about the strength of your marriage. In his studies, Dr. John Gottman, a marriage expert with a doctorate in psychology, found that those who talk respectfully and with love are happier and stay wed longer than those who attack each other's character or treat each other with contempt.

"Happily married couples behave like good friends, because they handle their conflicts in gentle and positive ways," says Gibberman, a certified Gottman-method couples therapist, who teaches clients to communicate more effectively.

Try this six-step plan to help you tune up your couple talk -- and stay closer than ever:


1. Become an active listener
"Many people don't listen to what their partners are saying during a disagreement, because they're too busy thinking about how to rebut them," says Gibberman. Before you begin, agree to take turns: One of you gets to speak while the other listens without interrupting. After each of you has spoken, show that you understand the other's feelings: "It makes sense to me that you think we're not saving enough money, and you're upset."


2. Complain without blame
Want your guy to stop leaving the TV remote between the sofa cushions? Ask nicely, using "I" statements: "I get frustrated having to search for the remote, so I'd like you to put it back in the end table drawer when you're done." Avoid critical "you" statements, like this one: "You always leave things all over the place!"


3. Own up to your part
Take responsibility for your contribution to the problem, hard as it may be: "I should have talked to you about the price of the sofa before buying it. Let's figure out ways we can cut back until the sofa is paid off." Denying it ("I didn't spend too much") or counterattacking ("Well, you spent a fortune on the flat-screen TV") will just lead to hurt feelings and flaring tempers.


4. Forget the past
When you're in the middle of a disagreement, stay on topic. Dredging up old conflicts ("This is just like the time you ...") could overwhelm and upset your partner -- not to mention put him on the defensive. Plus, adds Gibberman, skipping from one subject to another makes it hard to reach a resolution.


5. Take a time-out
"When a discussion isn't going well, many couples tend to keep barreling through, which makes things worse, not better," says Gibberman. The next time one of you gets emotional mid-conflict, put the discussion on hold -- whether it's for 15 minutes or five days -- until you're calm and thinking clearly.


6. Show gratitude
Every day, look for opportunities to acknowledge the things your significant other does right, instead of nitpicking about his flaws. Saying things like "Those lamb chops were delicious -- thanks for making dinner tonight" will go a long way toward strengthening the friendship in your marriage. And that, in turn, will make it easier to manage conflicts.






The link to it:
http://sg.shoppinglifestyle.com/love/lbw/great-couple-communication/1573/#.TgK3OQDvs9A;facebook





Personally I find them so true. I wouldnt say a relationship would be perfect without quarrels but communications are definitely the key to all problems! Couples out there, is it time to change the way you talk to your loved ones? For me, I would totally bear it in mind.

Thursday, May 26, 2011

Tomorrow's the big day!

Tomorrow will totally marks the end of my 3 years of Poly life! Mixed feelings though. But I'm really excited! HEHE. I had a fringe cut yesterday & I think I look younger now. LOL. 

This was taken yesterday after my fringe cut! HAHA.


I will look either like this or
like this tomorrow! I have yet to decide! :/


May seems to many that I'm overly excited/crazy over this graduation ceremony. Well, but to me it's like a sense of achievement. I may not be the perfect student scoring all As and all or rather I'm not even one with grades that are good enough for local university. Whatever is it, I'm satisfied. With my family background, with my expectation of myself, at least I completed Poly for now. Who wouldn't want to continue to further studies? I want, &so I have to earn hard for it now. 

Bf should be home in less than an hour, <3

Thursday, April 28, 2011

In loving memory,















Fyi, it's the first guy from the left of this photo I'm talking about.


This feeling is indescribable. I just lost a friend of 8 years this evening, a friend since Secondary 1. A friend who has yet to turn 21 years old.

Life is indeed unpredictable and fragile.
I hope you rest in peace, Jasper.


Your friend always,
Meizhen.



A memories video of him by his gf,
http://www.facebook.com/video/video.php?v=10150566403630694&comments